NEW Reddit Article - How to get Motivation.
Inspiration is hitting the gas, Motivation is the fuel in the tank... Doesn't matter how hard you push if you're on empty. Here’s how to fill up to become energized & productive.
You’re stuck in a rut.
Doom scrolling. Procrastinating on basically everything. Lifelessly coasting through a mediocre existence.
You don’t want to keep living like this. You’re desperate to break out, but for whatever reason, you’re finding it impossible to find the motivation to complete even the most basic of tasks.
You decide to dig a little—perhaps prodded by the advice of a self-help book—and see if you can uncover something that will unlock your motivation.
Ok, well, I’m drifting aimlessly, so maybe I need to “start with why”. That’s gotta be it. That’s what’s missing: the “why” of the many “whats” I want to do.
So what are my deep-seated desires? What are my ambitions? What do I really want?
Ok, I can think of a few… I want to work hard because I want to live the life I always dreamt of. I want to have more money and take better better of myself, my friends and my family. I want to feel better and be happier.
If I focus on that, if I remind myself of my “whys” multiple times each day … if I create vision boards, tack motivational posters, repeat affirmations… then… I should and will feel motivated!
So you do that.
Aaaaand nothing changes.
Meanwhile, the guy on Instagram, who seems completely untethered to any “whys” beyond the growing in the ability to take the douchiest selfies possible, has no trouble pounding it at the gym, crushing it at the office, then partying hard at night.
Here’s the deal.
The word motivation is derived from the Latin word “movēre”, or “to move”. You should interpret this, not as the will to move—that’s the domain of inspiration—but the capacity to move; to have a physical store of calories ready to effect work.
All that “why” stuff is important, but it’s the stuff of inspiration. It’s the will and intention to get your work done and achieve your goals. But you have plenty if that. More is just not the solution.
To use a car analogy, inspiration has you push on the gas pedal—and perhaps you’ll jam it down hard if you have a David Goggins audiobook in your ear—but motivation… that’s the gas in the tank. The liquid fuel; the store of energy needed to actually propel the heavy chunk of metal forwards.
Not saying it’s not important to get clear on your “whys”—a car won’t go fast or far if the pedal is barely tapped. I’m saying… you’re on empty, so you need to put some damn gas in tank first.
Ok but how?…
So that’s the problem aspect of my article. To keep this email short, you can find the solution bit on Reddit. Go here to read it, and if you’re inclined, leave an upvote or comment. It really helps with it reaching others who might find it useful.
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